Changing the World….
One Great Love Story at a Time
Dear SingleWoman Ready for Love,
You’ve done so much to build a life you genuinely love and are proud of.
Your soul purpose or career is starting to blossom—or perhaps is already in full bloom! Your friendships are gorgeous and nourishing and you have a life filled with fun, adventure, and beauty.
But….we both know there is not enough sugar in the world to sweeten the deep-down ache of living a life without the MAGIC of romantic love with a man who CHERISHES you.
Despite all the goodness, there is a quiet telltale knowing in your heart that something is missing—something that would bring profound fulfillment, richness, and JOY to your big, beautiful heart:
HIM.
Oh WE KNOW….you certainly do not NEED a man.
(Especially now that you have the career, the friends and even the financial freedom to do as you desire.)
But this stubborn heart of yours…won’t stop….longing.
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Longing to be MET in allllll your succulence, tenderness, fiery brilliance and desire for LOVE.
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Longing to soften all the heavy armor of the “independent woman” in the (THANK YOU, GOD) strong arms of an attuned, smart, funny, deeply MASCULINE MAN who (somehow!) can read every facet of you like a book —even those secret parts that fear you might be ‘too much’.
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Longing to feel the deep relaxing exhale of knowing you can lay your head on the pillow next to his…and finally be HOME.
Some of you may already understand the (edgy!) truth that HE is the key to unlocking your deepest most luscious Feminine bliss. The whole “Independent Woman” rite of passage certainly had its place, but you, Sweetness…. are ready to slink into a DEEP, LASTING, EROS-DRENCHED LOVE.
Your (secret) RELENTLESS DESIRE for HIM is not only GOOD and RIGHT, it's a major ingredient in the secret sauce of your unique Feminine magnetism and allure.
But why then are there so many fabulous women like YOU who DESIRE to be in a relationship with a Great Man stuck on the dating hamster wheel of disappointing and frustrating experiences with men, over and over again?
(BUTTON) Take me to THE ARENA!
It stings my heart to say this….but here is what I see every day:
You are either stuck in the scarcity trap of “But where are all the “REAL MEN?” because
“Gilllllian, you do not understand, I have been on 11 dates in a row and they were all DUDS.”
OR…..
Perhaps you’re one of the seemingly luckier ones who actually know how to magnetize good men….but….somehow, despite your best efforts, these men don’t pursue or claim you as their own.
You’ve bravely put on your big girl panties (countless times) and have been so patient…..but the merry-go-round of HOPE and DISAPPOINTMENT in your dating life is draining and you are… tired.
Just the idea of ‘getting back on the apps’ or starting from scratch again feels unbearable…so you try harder….and compromise even more. You find yourself splitting the check for ‘romantic’ dinners, secretly shrinking your radiance, and hiding your true desires...anything to avoid returning to the torturous churn-and-burn of modern dating. 🥀
Somehow even the sex and all the ways you pour your Magic Sexy Healing LoveTM into this man begins to feel flat and dusty. You notice him pulling away – his texts feel colder and less frequent. He stops bringing you flowers and little gifts. It's not long now before he will fade away completely, leaving you feeling confused, hurt and wondering how it happened…yet again.
Where did things go wrong? 🥀
Why are there so many fabulous women like YOU who deeply desire to be in a relationship with a Great Man stuck in these cycles of disappointing and frustrating experiences with men, over and over again?
I am going to give it to you straight up ~ no chaser.
There are TWO CRUCIAL REASONS:
1. YOU WERE NEVER TAUGHT HOW TO DATE AS A FEMININE WOMAN.
You’ve unknowingly been dating out of alignment with your biological and spiritual nature as a Feminine Woman, causing heartbreak, frustration, weariness, and unnecessary self-doubt.
2. YOU DO NOT FULLY UNDERSTAND, ENJOY and RESPECT THESE STRANGE, BAFFLING, HAIRY CREATURES CALLED M-M–M-MEN.
You have hidden places of unconscious control, disrespect, and/or blind spots that have been unconsciously sabotaging your attempts at finding Love.
You've been overgiving, caretaking, and too generous with your energy, love, sex, and even money. This is causing you to make a series of fixable but critical mistakes that have you overgiving, s/mothering him, caretaking, and being far too generous with your energy, sex, love – and even your MONEY.
HELLO KISS OF EROTIC DEATH.
It's not your fault, Love.
But it is YOUR responsibility to heal and transform what lives within your own body, beliefs, and nervous system.
The GOOD NEWS is that dating and learning how to be courted by Masculine Men who DESIRE MARRIAGE and devotional partnership are TEACHABLE SKILLS that you can LEARN.
The NOT-SO-GREAT NEWS? Most “conscious dating” and / or “polarity” programs – and certainly the dating apps! – have likely led you astray when it comes to the unique (and sadly, increasingly rare) experience of dating as a FEMININE WOMAN.
I am a teacher and guide for (thousands of) women and here is the tea from the frontlines:
Every day, I witness amazing women paying a painful price for cookie-cutter approaches to dating that tragically leave you and your Feminine Magic tangled up in a straightjacket.
Babe, I p-r-o-m-i-s-e you….shrinking your magic, diluting your Honeypot allure, and watering down your alchemical Feminine eros is NOT the answer.
Or…you are ‘out there’ crashing around on dating bumper cars because you are following the same path that helped you create business and career success. The Tough Love Truth is that creating business success does not = knowing how to be FELT, found and adored by GREAT Masculine Men.
This is why I have created….
THE ARENA
A DATING + COURTSHIP REVIVAL FOR FEMININE WOMEN
created by Gillian Pothier
⚡💛⚡THE ARENA is a multidimensional, mystical yet practical dating + courtship journey where you will be guided, supported and (lovingly) challenged as you step forward into the world of MEN.
Here is what you will learn in The Arena
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How to identify and magnetize a ROCK SOLID Masculine man who genuinely WANTS and is READY for a long-term, happy, stable relationship and marriage. This alone will spare you heaps of emotional agony & wasted time!
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The art of NOT becoming entertainment for bored men who have zero intention of actually pursuing you.
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How to emanate a precise yet succulently magnetic Feminine Frequency (aka: your ‘bat signal’) to the RIGHT type of man so that your milkshake does NOT bring all the BOYS to your yard! (TRUST ME….you realllllllly do not want all the boys in your yard!)
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How to keep your sweet little BRILLIANT BRAIN from spinning in exhausting loops of “does he…does he not…” and learn how to FLIP THE ENERGETIC SCRIPT so that it's his brilliant mind that is captivated by thinking about YOU.
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The THREE LITTLE WORDS no woman who desires love should ever say! (And noooo, not those 3 little words! ;) )
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No more premature bonding to the wrong man (and how to inspire a man to create the CORRECT CONDITIONS for your opening and radiance.)
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How to not ‘accidentally’ collapse into Wifey before you get what you want and desire first.
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The life-changing alchemical practice of understanding, appreciating, respecting and dare I say adoring biologic and primal MALENESS.
(Someone please explain how we’re supposed to have gorgeous, fulfilling relationships with MEN if we don’t organically appreciate, respect and enjoy MALENESS?) -
🌶️ SEX. This is THE #1 hot tamale question we receive. Get ready to hear the real, raw, unedited tea from the frontlines as we guide you through how to navigate the rocky erotic currents of courtship in 2025.
Learn how to avoid the time-sucking and heart-hurting pitfalls of Dating in 2025 ❤️🩹 ….and FEEL GOOD WHILE DOING SO. 💝
The painful truth is….we all know modern dating can be hard.
Most women – especialllllly Feminine women – understandably dread the very idea of it.
But I pinky-swear that dating and opening to being courted does not have to feel so hopeless and frustrating.
We have created THE ARENA to be a joyful, playful, heart-healing journey that also supports and teaches you with REAL LIFE IMPERFECT MEN 👀 how to become more skillful, more embodied, more magnetic….and more fully expressed in the truth of your own desire and ESSENCE as WOMAN. 💎
But here is the tricky thing!
Finding Love (and being FOUND in Love) IS a bit of a wild and sometimes deeply vulnerable and lonely journey. Whether meeting men online or in ‘the wild’ (and we are going to guide you through both!) it is crucial that you know what you are doing when it comes to dating and meeting men in 2025.
If you desire to love and be loved by a Great Man, you must fully BECOME the Great Woman you have the potential to be. This one, Beauty…is ALL YOU.
And there is no better place to learn (and unlearn!) the path to GREAT LOVE than inside THE ARENA: A Dating + Courtship Revival for Feminine Women who are ready for the Love of a Lifetime.
What Makes THE ARENA different from all the other ‘dating programs’ out there?
THE ARENA is a bit like the Hogwart’s School of Dating and Relating.
Here is our secret Love Potion: 🪄
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A splash or 2 of Deep Feminine Mystery School (Hello Feminine Magnetism, Muse Codes and Allure! )
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A drizzle of CHARM SCHOOL (The mirepoix of Feminine mystique…)
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And well…several hefty scoops of FEMININE REFORM SCHOOL (because ahem Ladies….not by a longshot are men are the only problem when it comes to the reality of dating and finding Love 👁️)
Here are the frequencies woven through the 3-month journey of
THE ARENA:
1. Playful and 🍯 Luscious Honeypot Enchantment 🍯 meets DEEP Feminine Spiritual Responsibility.
This is THE alchemical combo that inspires men to WANT – and PURSUE – deep, erotic, lifelong LOVE and SACRED UNION with an awakening, potent, supple Feminine Woman….like YOU.
2. Coming into Right Relationship with Men, Maleness and the Masculine.
I am going to tell you a secret. I have spent the last 4-months going ‘undercover’ 🕵🏻♀️ into the world of dating and relationship coaching. Not going to lie...I am a little terrified for the future of humanity when it comes to the extreme sport of Man:Woman relating. 😬
I could not find ONE program or course that successfully combines these 3 essential textures:
1. FEMININE MAGNETISM & Embodiment
2. DEEP HEART-HEALING
3. LEARNING LIFE-LONG “Devotional Dating”, Courtship, and Relating Skills
I have seen far too many women learn the ⚙️ mental mechanics ⚙️ of how to DATE well – but then not know how to deeply RELATE (to men) in an embodied and FEELABLE way. This blind spot of intellectual understanding of ‘Dating Mechanics’ (without the in-bodied feelability) actually repels the Great Men that beautiful, available women desire. Even worse….headiness of this nature actually perpetuates attracting lower quality men – a doozy of a gauntlet for women to understand and take responsibility for.
(Ironically – and take it from my own personal experience, the smarter you are the harder this often is! 👩🏻🔬😬)
THE ARENA ADDRESSES ALL THREE LAYERS! 🎉
We will teach you how to DATE skillfully *and* how to RELATE ROMANTICALLY – and SUCCESSFULLY – with Masculine Men, while journeying deeply into the Heart of the Feminine.
3. We are in this together!
You will be journeying the 3-months of THE ARENA with some of the most succulent, brilliant, tender-hearted, playful, hilarious, devotional, epic women in all the land. We will lovingly guide you through the places of resistance, avoidance, anxiousness, ‘blankness’, generational scar tissue, and fear that often lives in the hearts and nervous systems of women. Part of the ineffable magic of THE ARENA is that we are going to do this in a way that is JOYFUL. There will be tears and much laughter as we entrain to higher and higher codes of Feminine enchantment, suppleness, embodied wisdom and SKILLFULNESS together.
You do not have to do this alone!
Dating doesn't have to be a lonely and depressing journey 💔 ~ we promise!
Meet the Creator + HEADMISTRESS of THE ARENA:
Gillian Pothier
Founder of Feminine Eros
Gillian is one of the Source Code holders of restoring LOVE and UNION harmonics on this planet by righting the relationship between the Masculine and the Feminine. She has been on the frontlines of the restoration of the Feminine AND the Masculine through her writing, coaching and livestream transmissions for many years. All of her work is in service to 3 sacred pillars of Creation upon this planet: Love - Union - Family
As a guide and mentor for thousands of women, believe me when I say: I have seen it ALL in the extreme sport of Man–Woman Relating.
For more than a decade, I’ve supported women in repairing their relationships with the men in their lives—whether it be a Husband, Father, Son, Brother, Ex-Husband, Lover, Baby Daddy, or even their relationship with the Masculine aspect of God—the entire cosmic and terrestrial Masculine enchilada.
I have witnessed too many extraordinary women unnecessarily suffer in the world of dating and relating—caught in loops of painful stories, stuck in archaic traps of limiting beliefs, attached to compensatory egoic postures of Feminine entitlement and ego– who are disconnected from their own DEEPEST DESIRES.
In response to this...I went deep into the Feminine R&D Lab and created
THE ARENA.
THE ARENA is a true REVIVAL of the lost art of Devotional Dating and Courtship—combining deep heart healing, luscious Feminine Honeypot codes and essential SKILLS to gracefully navigate the stormy seas of Dating and Man:Woman Relating.
I have been deeply blessed in this lifetime to be in life partnership with Max Marmer, who is my greatest Shamanic teacher of Love, Devotion and the Golden Path of Awakening. Celebrating 6 years of partnership in Love and Co-Creation, creating THE ARENA is one of the alchemical blessings of our Union!
✨ Martine De Luna
Title/Role Muse
Martine is a devoted wife and mother and is a treasured voice as a teacher and guide of the Devotional Feminine. As a celebrated teacher and trusted guide for hundreds of women, she guides women from maidenhood to marriage….and Motherhood! with her unique signature of profound wisdom, devotional heart and spicy spirit.
Martine will be weaving into THE ARENA to teach her golden codes of Biologic Womanhood in the Creational Dance of COURTSHIP and coming into ‘right relationship’ with God, Life, and Men. Martine will also be keeping an attuned eye on the ladies of THE ARENA as each of you step forward into ‘The World of Men’. Having Martine in “The House” is a long awaited dream come true for me. We are very blessed!
✨ Allyssa Milan
Titel/Role Muse
Allyssa is a Multidimensional Artist, Devoted Daughter of God, and Cosmic Muse of the Most High!
A beloved and long-time student within the Feminine Eros ecosystem, Allyssa has transformed her whole life (for *real*) and is an embodied guiding light of joy, succulence, and Feminine bliss.
With nearly a decade of experience working with men around intimacy and sexuality, Allyssa has deep insights into the Masculine psyche that she offers as an embodied and tender-hearted guide for Women. Allysa believes (and is a walking example!) that when women awaken to their unique magic and Feminine creational potency, relationships become vessels for the miraculous!
Who is THE ARENA for?
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Women in ALL seasons and developmental cycles of life are warmly welcomed to THE ARENA! We have maidens and ingénues in their 20’s, virgins in their 30’s, widows, devoted Mamas, former sex workers, women who have avoided relationships with men for years, divorcées, Dakinis, and women who hail from a wildflower garden of cultural and spiritual lineages….women of alllll backgrounds, ages and spiritual paths are welcome!
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You instinctively know that deep devotional love and union with a man is truly part of your destiny and while you may have a belly full of butterflies 🦋, the deeper part of you is READY.
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You understand that THE ARENA is not a “passenger princess” ride. You must agree to GO ON ACTUAL DATES WITH ACTUAL MEN.
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You’re ready to courageously TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for healing your psychic scar tissue around Men and the Masculine. You are able to recognize that on some level, this is what’s kept you looping in painful dating dramas, disappointments, or the sadness of not being deeply met, cherished, or claimed by an extraordinary man— year after year.
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You are ready to learn how to TURN ON your LOVE-LIGHT 💡– and develop MASTERY with this part of the NATURAL STATE OF THE FEMININE. Eros, Radiance, Allure, Succulence, Enchantment and Magnetism are your NATURAL FEMININE STATES of BEING when you feel safe and joyful.
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You are done making excuses, done making dinners for yet another “maybe he's The One.” You are ready to claim full RESPONSIBILITY for your CREATIONAL POWER AS A WOMAN in life and in LOVE. 💘
You don’t have to enter the scary world of “dating apps” and “online dating” alone.
And, truthfully, in our opinion, Feminine Women “shouldn’t” enter the Lion’s Den of dating – whether online or ‘in the wild’ – without being equipped with crucial SKILLS.
We created THE ARENA to disrupt the dread, despair and resistance SO MANY women feel when they even think about dating, ‘being back on the apps’ or being approached by men ‘in the wild’. You won’t be doing this alone, Beauty This is a held experience—with live teachings, real support, and a curated community of women walking the same path.
Inside THE ARENA, you will learn how to become a SKILLFUL yet PROFOUNDLY FEELABLE and EMBODIED WOMAN.
(Energetic Hint: Masculine Men Are Built To Find, Fall In Love With, And Cherish Feelable Women.)
Architecture Of The Journey
All Content Is Taught Live!
All content and practices within THE ARENA are precisely designed to support you in embodying the necessary SKILLS and WISDOM of Devotional Dating ~ and Relating ~ and work in the subterranean layers of your soma and psyche energetically and mystically.
Why?
Because Masculine Men are, in fact, ENERGETIC GENIUSES… and your ENERGY (which never lies!) is what he is going to respond to far more than any of your pedigreed intellectualization. (Sorry not sorry, my Smart Cookie babes…I had to learn this one the hard way, too.)
What is inside THE ARENA?
You’ll feel guided, supported, and safe to open in real-time as you step into the World of Men—with your dates, emerging refined skills, and a circle of women who’ve got you.
THE ARENA includes:
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10 LIVE TEACHING TRANSMISSIONS
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3 DEEP DIVE COMMUNITY COACHING CALLS
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Special ‘pop-up’ salons
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A popping community for support from us and one another (Your ARENA Si-Stars! 😉)
EARLY BIRD
$1777
$1555
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FAQ
Will the calls be recorded?
Yes, all calls will be recorded and the replays will be available within 2 business days.
When will the teachings be held?
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The primary teachings will be held on Thursdays at differing times to accommodate multiple time-zones.
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There will also be special pop-up teachings and a (epic) Book Study group led by the brilliant and lovely Sophia Babai. We suggest prioritizing the Core Teachings and Coaching Calls – and attend the extra-curricular offerings as desired. (But they are AMAZING so you will desire!)
What types of support are available in THE ARENA?
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Q+A following each week’s live teaching: We will respond to questions after each weekly teaching transmission.
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Dedicated Office Hours: There are also 3 hot-seat community coaching (“office hour”) calls dedicated to supporting you and responding to your personal questions!
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Ongoing Community Support: We’ve got you! THE ARENA includes a popping community where you may ask questions, share screenshots of your texting communication with men, and receive emotional or tactical support from each other and from one of the 3 facilitators of THE ARENA. (We know communication in dating moves quickly (that's actually a good thing!) so while we cannot promise real time support, we will do our best to jump in and provide timely responses!)
Do you offer Refunds?
Nope. We do not offer refunds for THE ARENA. This is a unique Live program ~ the 1st ever of its kind. Its important you feel into this invitation so that you may make an aligned choice that is right for you. 🌷
High Heels and a Fancy Handbag Won’t Keep You Warm at Night, Beauty.
Come join us in THE ARENA and get ready to create DEEP LASTING LOVE with a MASCULINE MAN in 2025!