HIM.
Oh we totally get it…you certainly do not NEED a man.
(Especially now that you have the career, the friends and even the financial freedom to do as you desire.)
But this stubborn heart of yours…won’t stop... longing…to be MET in all your succulence and brilliance, longing to feel the whole-body relief of knowing you can lay your head on the pillow next to his and finally be HOME.
You may already understand the (edgy!) truth that HE is the key to unlocking your deepest, most luscious Feminine bliss. The whole “Independent Woman” rite of passage certainly had its place, but you, Sweetness…. are ready to slink into a deep, lasting, Eros-drenched LOVE.
This subterranean but unrelenting LONGING for HIM is not only GOOD and RIGHT, it's the mystical ingredient in your unique Feminine magnetism and allure.
But why then are there so many fabulous women like YOU who so deeply desire to be in a relationship with a Great Man stuck on the dating rollercoaster of disappointing and frustrating experiences with men, over and over again?
It stings my heart to say this….but here is what I see every day:
You are either stuck in the scarcity trap of “But where are all the “REAL MEN?” because “Gilllllian, you do not understand, I have been on 11 dates in a row and they were all DUDS.”
This merry-go-round of HOPE and DISAPPOINTMENT in your dating life is draining and you are… tired.
OR
Perhaps you’re one of the seemingly luckier ones who actually know how to magnetize a good man….but….somehow, despite your best efforts, the men you desire don’t pursue or claim you as his.
How did things
go so wrong?
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I am going to give it to you straight up, Beauty ~ no chaser.
There are TWO crucial reasons:
1. YOU WERE NEVER TAUGHT HOW TO ‘DEVOTIONALLY DATE’ AS A FEMININE WOMAN.
You’ve unknowingly been dating out of alignment with your biological and spiritual nature as a Feminine Woman, causing heartbreak, frustration, exhaustion, and unnecessary self-doubt.
2. YOU DO NOT FULLY UNDERSTAND, ENJOY and RESPECT THESE STRANGE, BAFFLING, HAIRY CREATURES CALLED MEN.
There are buried places of unconscious control, disrespect, and/or blind spots within you that have been unconsciously running the show, sabotaging your attempts at finding – and KEEPING – Love.
This is causing you to make a series of fixable but critical mistakes that have you overgiving, s/mothering men, caretaking, and being far too generous with your energy, sex, love – and even your MONEY.🙈
(Being over-generous with Masculine men is a sure-fire kiss of erotic death – and we will be re-wiring this reflex pronto!)
It's not your fault, Love.
But it is YOUR responsibility to heal and transform what lives within your own body, beliefs, and nervous system.
The GOOD NEWS is that dating and learning how to be courted by Masculine Men who desire marriage and devotional partnership are TEACHABLE SKILLS that you can LEARN.
This is why I have created….
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THE ARENA is a multidimensional, mystical yet practical dating + courtship journey where you will be guided and supported as you step forward into the world of MEN.
Inside THE ARENA, here is what you will learn:
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MAGNETIZING
THE RIGHT MAN
How to identify and magnetize ROCK SOLID Masculine men who genuinely WANT and are READY for a long-term commitment and union. This alone will spare you heaps of emotional agony & wasted time!
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CREATIONAL BELIEFS ABOUT YOURSELF
– and MEN:
The THREE LITTLE WORDS no woman who desires love should ever say!
(And noooo, not those 3 little words! 😉 )
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FEMININE ENERGETIC MASTERY:
How to emanate a precise yet succulently magnetic Feminine Frequency to the RIGHT type of man so that your “milkshake does NOT bring all the BOYS to your yard”!
(TRUST ME….you realllllllly do not want all the boys in your yard!)
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BOUNDARY & DISCERNMENT ALCHEMY
How to inspire a man to create the CORRECT CONDITIONS for your opening and radiance. Avoid premature bonding to the wrong man, prevent accidentally collapsing into 'Wifey' before getting what you want and desire first, and master the key words and actions that protect your heart while opening to Love.
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DEVOTIONAL DATING SKILLS
Transform from being entertainment for bored men (or a comforting mother archetype to a Peter Pan!) to becoming a woman who inspires genuine pursuit, courtship, and reverence—flipping the script so HE'S the one thinking about YOU.
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🌶️ SEX
This is THE #1 hot tamale question we receive and the most vital. Learn how to navigate the rocky erotic currents of modern man:woman relating with grace, power and in deep coherence with your spiritual and biologic nature as WOMAN.
All while learning to UNDERSTAND, APPRECIATE, TRUST and dare I say ~ ADORE ~ the primal nature of MASCULINE MEN!
Learn how to avoid the time-sucking and heart-hurting pitfalls of Dating in 2025 ….
AND FEEL GOOD WHILE DOING SO.
The painful truth is….we all know modern dating can be hard.
Most women – especially Feminine women – understandably dread the very idea of it.
We have created THE ARENA to be a joyful, playful, heart-healing journey that also supports and teaches you with REAL LIFE IMPERFECT MEN 👀 how to become more skillful, more embodied, more magnetic….and more fully expressed in the truth of your own desire and ESSENCE as WOMAN. 💎
But here is the tricky thing!
Finding Love (and being FOUND in Love) IS a bit of a wild and sometimes deeply vulnerable and lonely journey. Whether meeting men online or in ‘the wild’ (and we are going to guide you through both!) it is crucial that you know what you are doing when it comes to dating and meeting men in 2025.
If you desire to love and be loved by a Great Man,
you must fully BECOME the Great Woman you have the potential to be.
This one, Beauty…is ALL YOU.
There is no better place to learn (and unlearn!) the path to GREAT LOVE than inside THE ARENA: A Dating + Courtship Revival for Feminine Women for women who are ready for the Love of a Lifetime.
What Makes THE ARENA different from all the other ‘dating programs’ out there?
THE ARENA is the Love Church of Dating and Courtship for Feminine Women.
Unlike other dating courses that offer scripted formulas or manipulative tactics, THE ARENA creates the correct conditions for deep transformation through our unique Love Potion:
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DEEP FEMININE MYSTERY SCHOOL
Awaken, Restore and Celebrate your organic Feminine Magnetism, Muse Codes, and Allure while tending to the (ancestral, collective or individual) beliefs and overlays that have caused some disorganization of these deeply Feminine qualities and textures.
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A TOUCH OF CHARM SCHOOL REFINEMENT
So much of what modern women are taught by society and our culture hardens the Feminine heart and is antithetical to what truly touches the Masculine heart. There’s levels to this but – women need to learn how to be WOMEN again.
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FEMININE REFORM SCHOOL
Tend to the shadows, blind spots and patterns that have been secretly sabotaging your romantic success (because ahem, Ladies...men are definitely not the only problem when it comes to dating and relating! 👁️)
The Three Essential Elements within THE ARENA that are MIA in other Dating and Courtship programs:
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO DO THIS ALONE!
Dating doesn't have to be a lonely and depressing journey💔
~ we promise!
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🍯 Luscious Honeypot Devotion meets deep discernment 🏹
This alchemical combination inspires men to PURSUE deep, erotic, lifelong LOVE with an awakening, embodied Feminine Woman like YOU.
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Coming into Right Relationship with Men, Maleness and the Masculine.
(Honestly, this is Gillian’s cosmic secret sauce, transforming the lives and relationships of 1000’s of women!)
Learn to appreciate, believe and trust in the Goodness of Men’s Hearts….again.
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We are in this TOGETHER 👭
You will be journeying the 3-months of THE ARENA with some of the most succulent, brilliant, tender-hearted, playful, hilarious, devotional, epic women in all the land. We will steadfastly guide you through the places of resistance, avoidance, anxiousness, ‘blankness’, generational scar tissue, and fear that often lives in the hearts and nervous systems of women. Part of the ineffable magic of THE ARENA is that we are going to do this in a way that is JOYFUL…and FUN. Together, we will entrain to higher and higher codes of Feminine enchantment, suppleness, embodied wisdom and Discernment.
Meet the Creator of THE ARENA:
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Founder of Feminine Eros & Creator of THE ARENA
Gillian Pothier
Gillian is one of the Source Code holders for restoring collective LOVE and UNION harmonics by healing the relationship between Men and Women. With over a decade guiding thousands of women through the ‘extreme sport’ of Man-Woman Relating, she's only become evermore devoted to 3 sacred pillars of Creation upon this planet:
Love - Union - Family .
From Gillian:
“I have witnessed too many extraordinary women unnecessarily suffer in the world of dating and relating ~ caught in loops of painful stories, stuck in archaic traps of limiting beliefs, attached to compensatory egoic stories of Feminine entitlement and ego, who are disconnected from their own DEEPEST DESIRES and TRUTH.After bringing hundreds of women through a journey of Spiritual Repair with Men + the Masculine in my signature program, All For Love, I went back into the Feminine R&D Lab for months to create THE ARENA . THE ARENA is a true REVIVAL of Devotional Dating and Courtship combining deep Feminine heart Alchemy, Honeypot codes, and essential skills to gracefully yet potently navigate the stormy seas of modern love."
After bringing hundreds of women through a journey of Spiritual Repair with Men + the Masculine in my signature program, All For Love, I went back into the Feminine R&D Lab for months to create THE ARENA .
THE ARENA is a true REVIVAL of Devotional Dating and Courtship combining deep Feminine heart Alchemy, Honeypot codes, and essential skills to gracefully yet potently navigate the stormy seas of modern love."
Gillian is blessed to share 6 years of devotional partnership with her fiance, Max Marmer, who is her greatest Shamanic teacher of Love, Devotion and the Golden Path of Awakening.
Your Masterful Guides in THE ARENA
MARTINE DE LUNA
Devotional Feminine Guide
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A devoted wife and mother, Martine brings her treasured wisdom as a guide, supporting hundreds of women from maidenhood to marriage ~ and motherhood! Martine will be teaching her golden codes of Biologic Womanhood in COURTSHIP and coming into right relationship with God, Life, and Men. Martine will also be keeping an attuned eye on the ladies of THE ARENA as each of you step forward into ‘The World of Men’. Having Martine in “The House” is a long awaited dream come true for me.
We are very blessed!
Resident Muse!
ALLYSSA MILAN
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A long-time student within the Feminine Eros ecosystem, Allyssa is a living example of profound Feminine transformation that occurs within this path. With nearly a decade of experience working with men around intimacy and sexuality, Allyssa offers deep insights into the Masculine psyche and her journey home to God, Devotional Love, and full Feminine expression. Allyssa truly embodies the organic joy, succulence, and bliss that await when women awaken to the truth of their creational power as WOMAN.
You're Ready for
THE ARENA if:
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You Feel the Call of Partnership and Marriage Deep in Your Womb
You instinctively know that devotional love and union with a man is truly part of your destiny—and while butterflies may flutter in your belly, your soul is READY.
(Women of all backgrounds, seasons of life, Faith, and historical relationships with men are welcome. THE ARENA is very *full-spectrum WOMAN*.)
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You Feel Desire to Reclaim or Amplify Your Feminine Radiance
You desire to emanate and turn on your natural LOVE-LIGHT— opening and radiating your organic Feminine textures of Eros, Allure, Enchantment and Magnetism.
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You are
(Tremble-ingly) Devoted to Real-World Practice
THE ARENA is not a "passenger princess" 👸🏻 experience. Part of the requirement to enter THE ARENA is that you agree to go on actual dates with actual men.
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You Feel Desire to Become Truly Feelable to Him
A Masculine man can only cherish what he can actually feel, and you feel ready to learn the art of expressing your heart in ways that reflexively inspire his devotion ~ rather than his distance.
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You are Ready to Live from a Place of Feminine Spiritual Responsibility
You feel ready to tend to the psychic scar tissue around Men and the Masculine that dwells in your body and and subconscious layers. You are able to recognize that on some level, this is what’s kept you looping in painful dating dramas, disappointments, or the sadness of not being deeply met, cherished, or claimed by an extraordinary man— year after year.
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You are done settling and contorting
You are done making excuses, done making dinners for yet another “maybe he's The One.” You are ready to claim full RESPONSIBILITY for your CREATIONAL POWER AS A WOMAN in life and in LOVE. 💘
IMPORTANT NOTE ON READINESS✨
THE ARENA is exclusively for women who are officially available and legally-free to enter new partnership. If you are currently married, separated but not legally divorced, or in any existing relationship, this flagship journey of THE ARENA will not be aligned for you. Just as we teach the importance of entering courtship only with men who are truly available (ie: not separated, "almost divorced," or otherwise entangled), we require this same standard for our participants. Fair is fair, Beauty – and true devotional courtship requires a circuitry of complete energetic availability.
A NOTE ON SPIRITUAL FOUNDATIONS WITHIN THE ARENA ✨
While we draw inspiration and creational law from a predominantly Christian mystical source-code, women of all faiths and spiritual paths are warmly welcomed into THE ARENA. There will be some ‘golden threads’ of devotional contemplation and prayer that will include intentional evocation to the Holy Father, God, and the Masculine dimension of the cosmic creational principle.
You don’t have to enter the scary world of “dating apps” and “online dating” alone.
And, honestly, in our opinion, Feminine Women shouldn’t enter the Lion’s 🦁 Den of dating – whether online or ‘in the wild’ – without being supported, energetically held and re-anchored in the womb-deep ancient voice of Feminine discernment.
We created THE ARENA to disrupt the dread, despair and resistance so many women feel when they even think about dating, being ‘back on the apps’ or being approached by men ‘in the wild’. You won’t be doing this alone, Beauty. This is an intimately held experience—with live teachings, real support, and a curated community of (amazing!) women walking the same heart-path of New Love!
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Inside THE ARENA, you will learn how to become a SKILLFUL yet PROFOUNDLY FEELABLE and EMBODIED WOMAN.
(Energetic Hint: Masculine Men are BUILT to Find, Fall in Love with, and Cherish FEELABLE WOMEN.)
What happens inside THE ARENA?
THE ARENA includes:
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10 LIVE TEACHING TRANSMISSIONS
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3 DEEP DIVE COMMUNITY COACHING CALLS
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Special ‘pop-up’ salons
A popping community for support from us and one another (Your ARENA Si-Stars! 😉)
Here’s How We Will Flow in THE ARENA:
(*Speaking of Flow, there may be some rearranging of the modules + content once we all arrive into the field of THE ARENA.)
Upon Registration:
An invitation into Pre-Work: Stirring the Feminine Waters
We begin the descent into deep Feminine desire and feelability through 2 potent video transmission.
Week 1
Magnetic Intention & Encoding DESIRE
We enter through a portal of prayer and sacred intention for New Love and shimmy into the creational current of electro-magnetic relating!
Week 4
The Primal Pulse (Presented by Martine de Luna)
Repair and return to your instinctual Feminine intelligence and innocence. A symphonic live transmission illuminating the Biologic Dance of Courtship by the brilliant and beloved Martine de Luna!
Week 7
The Frequency Gate of Feelability and Feminine Receptivity
Ecstatically chisel away all the “independent women” armor and become increasingly FEELABLE and FINDABLE. Why? Because #1: You will FEEL HOT-GIRL AMAZING and #2: Masculine men only invest in and cherish women they can FEEL. Your organic vulnerability is your (secret ;)) Feminine super-power.
Week 10
The Extremely Magnetic Feminine Art of Yielding
Unpack the energetic magic of “leaning back” – and why so many women miss this EXACT place of initiation, resulting in men disconnecting, ghosting, or losing interest jusssst when it seemed like things were going in the right direction! This teaching takes women far deeper than the topic appears to be…trust us, this is a potent, often confronting, and yet *seemingly* simple deep reorganization within the Feminine heart and psyche.
Week 2
Digital Alchemy
Create your online presence as a luscious living altar that emanates your essence….in a cultivated and precise way that is FEELABLE to the Masculine.
Week 5
Into the Fire: Live Fieldwork and Community Coaching Call!
Bring your actual dating experiences into our community coaching call for real-time alchemy, coaching, and clarity. (These calls are GOLD)
Week 8
Longing and Standards
No more pretending you’re “cool” with whatever. No more prematurely rocking Wife-y codes to “get” or keep a man. You’ll learn to embody devotion without collapse and express the truth of your desire in a way that deeply activates *aligned* Masculine cherishment.
Week 11
Into the Fire: Live Fieldwork and Community Coaching Call!
What may have felt like ‘strategy’ is now becoming an aligned instinct. A final live community coaching call to support each of you as you continue to move through this journey of opening, emanating and being found in Love.
Week 3
Lifting out of the Shadows
We begin to touch and release any places of shame, resentment, scar tissue, and unconscious pursuit patterns that have kept your Shakti entangled in archaic stories of injured self-worth. This gets to be FUN, Beauties.
Week 6
The Golden *Magnetic* Key of Self-Love and Discernment
Activate your Oracle to recognize the energetic signature of emotionally anchored, truly Masculine men who are ready and WANT long-term partnership and marriage. (And respectfully eject the men who aren’t aligned with your desire.)
Week 9
Into the Fire: Live Fieldwork and Community Coaching Call!
As you open to being courted by real-life men, the teachings and internal re-organization suddenly get personal real fast. This is where so much of the magic and embodied revelation happens within THE ARENA!
Week 12
COMPLETION + CELEBRATION CEREMONY!
You didn’t just “learn how to date better.” You are becoming the Great Woman you have always know was possible. You are so beautifully equipped to deepen the new love you have created within THE ARENA and/or continue your journey of being found in LOVE. Expect beauty, reflection, celebration, and likely a few tears!
All Content in THE ARENA is Taught Live.
All content and practices within THE ARENA are precisely designed to support you in awakening and embodying the beautiful and necessary energetics and skills of Devotional Dating. These practices will occur in the ‘real world’ and within the subterranean layers of your soma and psyche energetically and mystically.
about THE ARENA:
FAQ’s
WHEN WILL THE TEACHINGS BE HELD?
Core teachings are held on Thursdays at varying times to accommodate our global coterie, with magical and deeply nourishing ‘extra-curricular’ pop-up teachings and a book study group woven through the 12 weeks of THE ARENA.
We suggest prioritizing the core teachings and coaching calls – and attend the extra-curricular offerings as desired.
(But they are AMAZING so you will desire!)
WHAT TYPES OF SUPPORT WILL I RECEIVE DURING THE ARENA?
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Three dedicated hot-seat community-wide coaching calls (these are GOLD!)
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Consistent support for tricky dating kerfuffles, communication refinement, spiritual edification, and celebrations both big + (seemingly!) small in our popping Telegram group
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Loving-n-sometimes a little bit spicy reflections and guidance rom Gillian, Martine, and Allyssa
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Brief Q&A following each week's LIVE TEACHING
WHY THE EMPHASIS ON THE ENERGETICS OF DEVOTIONAL DATING + COURTSHIP?
Because Masculine Men are, in fact, ENERGETIC GENIUSES… and your ENERGY (which never lies) is what he is going to respond to far more than any of your fancy intellectualization. (Sorry not sorry, my Smart Cookie babes…I had to learn this one the hard way, too.)
WILL THE CALLS BE RECORDED?
Yes! All calls are recorded and the replays will be available within 2 business days.
DO YOU OFFER REFUNDS?
No. THE ARENA is a unique, live program—the first ever of its kind.
We invite you to feel deeply into this invitation and make an aligned choice that is right for you. 🌷
High Heels And A Fancy Handbag Won’t Keep You Warm At Night, Beauty.
MOST POPULAR CHOICE!
THE ARENA begins on Saturday, 2025
Step into the timeline of being a skillful, feelable woman—a version of you who moves through the world with organic magnetism, discernment, and the radiance of being deeply chosen by a man you adore.
A few months from now, you could be sharing your Love Story with us—or still wondering why more time has slipped like sands through the hour glass without the love you know is your destiny!
Its Player’s Choice, Beauty….what is the truth of your heart whispering to you?
New to Gillian’s world and desire a discovery call?
We’ve got you, Love!